Thoughts On Spiritual Warfare From A Guy Who Knows Nothing About It.

Thoughts On Spiritual Warfare From A Guy Who Knows Nothing About It.

There’s a sense in the Christian world that pulling back from the rest of the world is what we need to do, separate ourselves and therefore avoid the temptations and the sins that they thrust upon us as, normal.

I totally get it, I turn on the TV to watch one of my favorite shows and it happens to be on the news and I instantly cringe, reaching for the remote to change the channel as fast as I can because I know that whatever topic they’re on, it’s going to anger me in some way. Realizing of course that that might be a me problem and not a they problem I’m usually able to take a deep breath and relax but the idea of just totally disengaging with anything secular is still really appealing.

Think about it for a minute, watching TV shows that only affirm what I believe, living with people who don’t challenge my faith every step of the way, working in a place where everyone agrees that God is great. The urge sometimes to pack up and move to a cabin in the mountains, live off the land, home school my kids and throw away everything electronic (except the air conditioner) is at times really strong. Forget all the politics and ideas jammed down our throats 24/7 and just live.

It’s always been a fantasy of mine to spend some time away from civilization taking with me of course all the comforts I’ve come to love, and need. Live this life as if I’m already in heaven.

But we can’t have it both ways can we? I can’t simultaneously shun television while enjoying the entertainment it offers. I can’t condemn the smartphone at the same time as typing this blog. I can’t attack the beliefs of other people while encouraging them to embrace mine.

That tension we live in is called life and the place is earth, and God knew that once we allowed sin to enter the world life would look different than what He set up for us. That’s why He sent Jesus, to give us back the hope that we had abandoned.

Knowing that, when the topics of certain politicians come up I can smile and say “aaannyywaayyys”. When non believers say something that threatens my beliefs I can see that not as a personal attack but as a cry for help. I can see how the challenges to my faith make it grow instead of making me doubt.

The tension between our faith in God and living in a world that wants to reject Him can be confusing because as humans we don’t like tension and our natural instinct is to get rid of that which makes things tense. But if we can learn to embrace it, we may just have a leg up on what I’ll call the ‘other side’, not for divisive purposes but solely for this illustration; the other side from a Biblical worldview is everything that goes against the Biblical worldview and that other side does the same thing we like to do – separate themselves from the tension – us. We (I say we and us because my readers are primarily Christian) call this spiritual warfare, they call it divisive politics, either way the end game is to separate and destroy. If we don’t play into the politics, if we don’t believe the lies being thrown at us, if we see the other side as people and not the other side, our leg up on them can actually be a leg up on us all, as a whole.

You see, God doesn’t want there to be division, He wants everyone to enjoy the peace that He offers but He knows that many will reject Him and then set their crosshairs on His children, He told us this would happen but He never said we should isolate ourselves, or separate ourselves, or cower under the pressure of those who wish to wipe away every mention of His Name. He did say to stand up and dress ourselves with truth and courage, He did say that we would be attacked both spirituality and physically, He did say that the other side would be ruthless in their endeavor to silence us for the truth we speak is offensive to those who don’t want to hear it.

My church is currently doing a series on spiritual warfare and my wife and I feel that our marriage and our family is being attacked right now by the enemy because he doesn’t like it when families are strong and marriages are growing. He hates it when faith is getting stronger and the Bible is being read, he hates it when friends come together and learn and read and pray and he will use any path he can to get in there and plant seeds of doubt and fear, he’ll use physical ailments and anxiety attacks but I know from experience he prefers to remain subtle so we don’t see that it’s him, but I know who it is and I also know the Victor in this supernatural war taking place, I’ve read the end of the Book and I know Who wins!

I don’t know where this all came from, I hope it made sense. These are my thoughts without any study just led by the Holy Spirit. I’m in a tiny waiting room and there’s soft music playing so I decided to let the Holy Spirit lead my thoughts and guide my fingers as I type away on my smartphone and this is what I’ve got, hope you enjoyed it.

Anxiety and Depression. God Can Redeem It, This Is How I Know.

Anxiety and Depression. God Can Redeem It, This Is How I Know.

Never before in the history of the world has mankind been so connected, and I’m not saying that in a good way. From the moment we wake up we are inundated with whatever is going on and the opinions expressed on social media about what’s going on.

I’m serious, it would not surprise me if someday soon the rear window of your car is basically going to be a big screen where you can express to the car behind you what you think about anything and everything.

I went to Toronto earlier this year for work and the hotel room bathroom mirror had a TV in it! When you turn it on it went automatically to the morning news so you wouldn’t miss anything while you dress after your shower.

Just the other day I was at the dentist’s office and of course the TV in the waiting room was on CBC News going on and on, over and over again about Trump, the hurricanes, and the Vegas shooting… And we’re in Canada!

Generally speaking we all wanna know what’s trending, what’s going on, what’s in and what’s out. We have to know what Trump said this time and we all have opinions on how to fix our country and many of us take our opinions to Facebook so we can tell everyone else that we have all the answers.

Of course, we take the likes we get on Facebook and we evaluate our self worth based on how many we get, buts that’s another post.

I can’t walk into a room without hearing about NFL players protesting during the national anthem, what jobs Trudeau killed this time, how awful Trump is, how long it’s going to be before we end up in a post apocalyptic world blown up by nuclear war and of course the biggest one, climate change.

It’s no wonder that more people than ever before suffer from an anxiety disorder and/or depression. One article I read today said that more than 40 million Americans suffer from anxiety and depression, and that’s not counting those who hide it.

Mankind has a lot to worry about. Doesn’t help that so many people out there will do whatever it takes to get their fifteen minutes. In the last month the world was supposed to end…again. The news keeps saying that global warming is going to kill us all and if that’s not enough, you can’t even go to a country music concert anymore without worrying about some nutjob with a gun!

During these unsettled times religion takes a hit and usually sees numbers grow at the same time. It takes a hit because many believe that religion is to blame for the world’s problem and it does well because many others turn to a “higher power” when things aren’t going well.

Take Christianity for example, another numerologist predicted the end of the world last month. Seeing as how we are now in October and the end was supposed to be on the 23rd of September, I’d say it’s safe to say he was wrong. I’m not bragging but I said he was wrong back in August because 1, the Bible is clear about who knows when that day will come and 2, everytime someone puts a date on it like that they’re usually just looking for some attention.

That guy made Christianity look like a doomsday cult just sitting and waiting for all the sinners to finally get what they deserve, he made it look like we’re excited about the end of the world. And at the same time, many Google Christianity in search of answers and in the off chance that he’s right, they wanna be prepared. And when people start looking for answers that’s when we can, as God’s children and Christ’s followers be there for them with some of those answers.

Anyway I kinda went off topic there, worry, there’s a lot of it, stress, anxiety, depression and all around sadness brought on by the news, weather and the impending doom some say is coming is really hard to deal with. What are we supposed to do with all of that? How do we not become depressed when everywhere you turn it’s all doom and gloom?

God has a lot to say about anxiety, 365 times His word instructs us “do not fear”. Here are just a few;

Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.
Isaiah 41:10

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6‭-‬7 NLT

So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.
1 Peter 5:6‭-‬7

“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.
Matthew 6:34

It’s easy to say to someone “don’t worry” if you aren’t someone who worries. Anxiety is a real thing and it can cause a slew of problems when it comes to your health. It can make your body do things that you have no control over – aches and pains, tremors and shakes, balance and dizziness problems, it can even make you break out in hives, cause temporary paralysis and even blindness! That’s why I think we should all use a little more compassion for anxiety sufferers out there, their worry may not be something they can control, or just snap out of.

God, on the other hand can give the advice of not worrying because when He came to earth in the form of a man – Jesus Christ – He suffered the same way all humans do. He had emotions, he experienced sadness, anxiety, temptation and ultimately rejection when He gave His life on the cross. He may have even had a full blown anxiety attack the night before His crucifixion when He prayed in the garden.

Then Jesus went with them to the olive grove called Gethsemane, and he said, “Sit here while I go over there to pray.” He took Peter and Zebedee’s two sons, James and John, and he became anguished and distressed. He told them, “My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.” He went on a little farther and bowed with his face to the ground, praying, “My Father! If it is possible, let this cup of suffering be taken away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.”
Matthew 26:36‭-‬39

Jesus’ soul was crushed, to the point of death. Luke described it like this; He prayed more fervently, and he was in such agony of spirit that his sweat fell to the ground like great drops of blood (Luke 22:44). Sweating blood is a real thing, it’s called “hematohidrosis”. WebMD says this; “…condition in which capillary blood vessels that feed the sweat glands rupture, causing them to exude blood, occurring under conditions of extreme physical or emotional stress.” It means that Jesus was under so much stress that he literally sweat blood, and instead of freaking out, He went to the Father and prayed.

I’ll say it again, it’s easy for me to say to an anxious person not to be anxious but I haven’t dealt with it, Jesus on the other hand has and I always say when in doubt do what Jesus did, in this case it’s prayer and ultimately surrendering to God and His will.

Our God knows about anxiety, He went through it, He felt it. He wants you to know that He is there for you, He loves you and will never leave you. He knows it’s isn’t easy and He will walk you through it.

God also knows what He’s doing, in the last few months my dear wife has been struggling with anxiety and I won’t get into those details here because I haven’t asked her if I can but I saw and continue to see God moving in this difficult time. From friends we didn’t know we had showing up at the exact right time to talk and show support, to family being there day and night showing unconditional love. I saw others being educated about mental illness through her trial, we heard radio programs on the way to a doctor’s appointment talking about anxiety and God’s role in that, not just once. Our church family surrounded us with prayer, love, shoulders to cry on, meals and babysitting duties. Our closest friends stayed by our side and didn’t leave, they prayed and prayed and prayed and let us know that they love us! God, is waay more than just a guy in the sky playing chess, He has a way of revealing Himself to His children andy wife and I agree, even though we’re still in the midst of a hard time, that we are better for it, and that’s because God has been carrying us through, like that picture that hangs in many houses showing the footprints in the sand. God doesn’t leave us, He carries us.

Thanks so much for reading and if you know someone who struggling with anxiety and depression let them know you care and pray for them, nobody should have to suffer alone.

Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.
Galatians 6:2

Looking Forward to Fall Premieres? Here’s What You Won’t See…

Looking Forward to Fall Premieres? Here’s What You Won’t See…

I like TV. I watch quite a bit of it, some of my favorites include Chicago Fire, Chicago P.D, Blacklist, Big Brother, America’s Got Talent, Survivor, oh and This Is Us, who doesn’t like This Is Us?

This summer however I discovered Last Man Standing, and no this blog post is not about the politics expressed in the show that many believe got it canceled off the uber liberal network ABC, though it’s quite obvious since Mike Baxter (Tim Allen) is a die hard Republican loyal to Reagan, disses Obama, and speaks out against everything the Democrats stand for. And ABC wouldn’t cancel a show that blatantly expresses views different from their own, that would be…shall we say, intolerant. Nooo they wouldn’t do thaaaat!

But there is one more thing found in Tim Allen’s show that isn’t found anywhere else – God, faith, family, strong male leadership, traditional family values, a male lead that that isn’t a complete idiot who sleeps with anyone and everyone like, oh, I don’t know every other sitcom on TV!!

Kidding aside, I love (AGT) America’s Got Talent. This summer a gospel choir made it very far and they received very good feedback from the judges and America! One of the things about AGT that I love is the stories of the contestants, the producers do a great job of giving viewers a peek into their lives. This way you’re not only watching contestants on a TV show, you also feel like you know them a little, you can relate. Well they also did a story on the gospel choir wherein the choir members shared some of their struggles and hardships and it was very good, heart wrenching even, but you know what was missing every time they (the producers) delved deeper into their story? The Gospel! God! How can an interview with members of a gospel choir not mention, even once the one thing that brought them all together? Now I’m not saying it’s the choir who omitted God from their story, though it’s possible, but far more likely is the notion that NBC and AGT didn’t want God in there because it’s too risky for them to be seen as friendly to religion by their non religious viewers. Don’t say God, it’s too controversial. Unless of course it’s Mel B screaming it from the judges panel that is, then it’s okay.

Big Brother and Survivor are not much different either, I mean I love those shows. Though this season of Big Brother has to be the worst one I’ve ever seen, Paul as a puppet master? Not likely, not to dis Paul too much, I’m sure he’s a decent player, thing is, this year their were no other players! Those who tried to play were villianized and evicted, punished for playing against Paul by his minions who seem all too willing to just give him half a million bucks! I’d like to see how much of a puppet master Paul would be if he were playing with the likes of Dr Will, Derrick or Dan, or even the year evil Dick played. Those people wouldn’t have let themselves be manipulated by Paul, unlike these fools playing this year, I’ve got some very un-christian-like words I’d like to use to describe their gameplay, but hey this is a Christian blog after all and I’m way off topic… So anyway, Big Brother did have a Christian player on this year, like they’ve done before. But also like they’ve done before they present that player in a way that isn’t too friendly, they made her look wierd, with the music and sound effects they used when she was in the HOH bathroom praying she looked more like a crazy person off her meds than a sane person just talking to God. And I know she was speaking in tongues, for many that’s already wierd, even for most Christians I know that’s wierd. All I have to say is read Corinthians a little closer if you wanna know more about that. But even when she called Paul out to be the snake that he is, Big Brother would use the sound of a snake as a funny sound effect effectively mocking her obvious reference to the serpent in the Bible. Again, CBS can’t be seen as portraying Christians in a positive light, that would be too risky for them.

All this ranting aside, what other options do we Christians have when watching TV if we want to relate to the characters on our favorite TV shows besides the cheesy stuff we find on the faith channel? None really. So the best thing we can do is use our favorite shows as examples of what not to do, except This Is Us, there’s some great stuff in there.

The other thing we can do is not get all bent out of shape about it either, I know we like to say that it’s all these shows these days that don’t show or teach any morals or values, but if we’re honest, we’d have to go waaay back to find a time when they did. I’m in my mid thirties and I remember growing up and watching shows my parents hated – Seinfeld and Friends to name a couple. Disclaimer: I’m not knocking Friends, I know some of you are hardcore Friends fans and I’m not trying to offend you, just wanted to say that. But, if we’re honest, those shows had a whole lot of sleeping around, they weren’t exactly do-gooders who caught themselves in bad situations, they wanted to be in those situations.

TV and movies have for a long time shown us what they knew we would pay for – people living lives that we secretly dream about. Is it really the fault of the entertainment industry, or is it our fault for continuing to watch?

What we can do is use TV exactly for what it is – entertainment. We can also learn from it, use it as a teaching tool for our kids and if you give it a chance there are now actually some really good, and well made Christian based movies and TV that don’t look like they were shot with an iPhone 3GS. We recently watched The Case for Christ and I have to say it was really good! No sugar coating our faith, just an honest look at the Bible through the eyes of an atheist who later surrendered to Jesus. The God’s NOT Dead movies are also good, though I can see where some potential criticisms would be. War Room was really good, almost anything recently made by the Kendrick brothers is good. And believe it or not, I might get some flack for saying this but The Shack also was well done.

Point is, TV was never intended to be all hugs and kisses, despite what Full House may have shown us, it’s entertainment. And entertainment is going to change based on what people want to see. So use TV as entertainment but if you want to be edified and have your bucket filled, read the Bible. If you want your kids to grow up knowing Jesus don’t expect the TV or anyone else to do that for them, you do it, by reading them the Bible, walking with them, talking with them, listening to them, leading them to Jesus yourself because everyone knows, if we expect our kids not to turn into the things they see on TV, you have to show them something else, you have to BE something else.

I’m Saved. So Why Don’t I Act Like It?

The Apostle Paul told the Galatians that the “…fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”
[Galatians 5:22‭-‬23]

If we have the Holy Spirit it would be evident to those around us because we would live our lives in such a way that no one could accuse us of lacking any of the traits Paul listed. Come Monday morning however how many of us can say that we’re patient, kind and gentle? I know I can’t, either I’m angry that the kids woke me up way too early, I’m frustrated that traffic on the highway isn’t moving fast enough or the long list of emails from impatient clients makes me impatient!

I’m not saying that doing and being good has any bearing on our salvation, most Christians nowadays know that we don’t earn it. Doing and being good is a result of that salvation. So I can’t help but ask sometimes if I’m really saved if I don’t perfectly example the fruits of the Holy Spirit, and I know I am not the only one who asks this question, it’s one of the big ‘what ifs’ we Christians ask ourselves – what if I am not really saved? It doesn’t help that the Bible confirms that many who think they know Jesus will be turned away from Him [Matthew 7:23].

What are we to do then with this grey area of I accepted Jesus into my heart but I am definitely not the perfection that Paul describes to the Galatians? Well rest assured brother and sister Christian, rest assured. The Bible also tells us that we can know with utmost certainty that we are indeed saved and will spend eternity in Heaven, even though we fail to place a check mark beside the virtues Paul talks about.

If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
Romans 10:9 NIV

Being saved doesn’t require a church membership, a long list of charitable organizations that rely on you. It doesn’t mean you have to stand on a street corner every night after work handing out Bibles, you don’t have to give every last penny you have to the needy. To be saved Paul says is to declare with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and declare with your heart a full belief that Jesus rose from the dead defeating the sins of the world. Jesus is who saves you, doing the things I listed above come naturally to those who have come into the presence of the Holy Spirit.

I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand.
John 10:28 NIV

John reminds us that once saved, no one can take us from Jesus, no one.

Naturally the question then becomes, what do I do with that Monday morning bad attitude that doesn’t exactly point others to Jesus? Well, the easy answer is… REPENT! Jesus, Paul and John aren’t asking or even expecting us to be perfect. They know that it isn’t possible, except for Jesus of course. Even the unchurched world isn’t asking us to be perfect, in fact it’s those of us that like to think that we are perfect that drive them away, they don’t like the hypocrisy. Repentance can be one of those fruits of the Spirit that the outside world can look at and say “well, that’s cool.” And I think that this is where we can bring the world and Jesus together. You see, Jesus loves a repentant heart and the world can’t help but love a repentant person. A repentant person is different from the world and nobody stays mad at a person who admits they don’t have it all together, in fact hearing a person say “it was my fault” is so far off of how most people behave these days that we can’t help but love them. Just ask anyone why the world loves Canadians, they’ll say it’s because we’re always saying sorry.

The Bible says that because we follow Jesus we will be different from the world, being repentant is different. In a world that is forever finding new ways to sin we can be the ones who find new ways to bring the gospel to the world.

Here’s the long and short of it friends, if you’re a Christian already don’t listen to the lie that your Monday morning behavior will condemn you. You may not always be all those things but you will be some of those things sometimes and the rest of the time you can repent of when you weren’t. Don’t go and try to be perfect, love Jesus and good things will follow.

Anyway, this is what was on my heart today and I’ll admit that much of it is me talking to myself, rambling even. But I also know that a lot of people struggle with knowing that they’re saved so I thought I’d share my rambling with you in hopes that it helps. Have a good day and don’t forget to be Jesus to someone today.

The ‘Facebook vs The Shack’ Conundrum

The ‘Facebook vs The Shack’ Conundrum

When I started this blog I knew it would rub some people the wrong way. I knew that some would see me as the hypocrite who writes about things he used to, and might even still do. I knew that I would be seen by some as the holier than thou type who stands on a pedestal and waves his finger at people. I knew, that I might be seen as a Pharisee.

I try really hard to not be those things, I try even harder to not make it about me but to make it about Jesus. He is after all the Savior of the world and deserves any and all glory, needless to say I have failed at that numerous times.

One of those big failures is how I was using my Facebook page to thump readers on the head not with the Bible, but my interpretations of it. I used Facebook as my world to judge, I sat on a throne and perused all the offerings that people would put out there. I ‘liked’ the things I like, I shared the things worthy of sharing, or worthy of sharing so that I could put my own two cents in and I commented on the things I felt I should comment on. None of which is inherently or necessarily bad on its own, I mean that is the premise of Facebook isn’t it? To let the world know your thoughts by putting them out there? But I saw all of those posts as things for me to either agree or disagree with and I’d find Scripture to back me up.

One of the things Facebook was and is still good for is to get the scoop on upcoming movies. As a Christian who loves movies I long for the day when Hollywood will put a true bona fide effort into making a Christian movie. “The Shack” seemed to be that movie. Much to my dismay this movie was slammed by Christians even before its debut, Christians everywhere condemned it first for its representation of the Holy Trinity and second because the book by the same name it’s based on was written by someone who many see as some new age, heretic. I read article after article about why we should not watch The Shack and how those that do and don’t see a problem with it aren’t real Christians. It seemed to me that a lot of good, well meaning Christians were sitting on their thrones in front of their Facebook kingdoms and declaring that their interpretation of the Bible and The Shack were the only ones worth entertaining. I know because I have been that guy. So I decided that I would indeed watch it, I would do so with a critical eye and a notepad…err, smartphone with a notepad ready to type down my thoughts so that I could come to my own conclusion.

I must say, I thought it was a good movie. Not just the production either, I thought the moral of the story aligned with scripture and I thought the message itself goes hand in hand with what the Bible teaches about forgiveness, fatherhood and the Father heart of God. I liked the story of how an angry, bitter man can come full circle, I liked how it taught that all people are God’s children and mostly I thought the scene where the main character Mac is told that both he and God can’t sit on the throne, it’s got to be one or the other and Mac has to choose which one it will be.

Now, don’t get me wrong, there might be some aspects of theology in the movie that differ from mine, but I have a hard time condemning the movie based on that alone. I mean, I saw the latest Transformers movie and if I were looking through the lens of theology at it I could say that it’s an idolatrous, blasphemous movie filled with idols and lies and any number of ungodly things that I disagree with. But I didn’t go expecting to be taught about God, I went for entertainment. The Shack and other faith based movies however get put up on a pedestal for some reason, a different set of standards if you will. We expect that they’ll all align perfectly with our interpretations of the Bible, we expect that our theology will be presented exactly the way we see it and I think that we Christians often forget that in order for me to condemn another person’s view of the Bible I have to assume that my view is the perfect one, I have to stand on that pedestal and point my finger at everyone else, I am the one on the throne.

To be clear, The Shack is just a movie and that movie is someone’s view of God, it is not perfect. God didn’t write it after all. Likewise, Facebook is just a program and it’s a program that has changed a lot since it’s inception, it’s not a bad program by any means and people who use it are not bad because they use it. Both The Shack and Facebook have one thing in common that can either make them good or bad – people.

I deleted my Facebook account a week ago. Not because I think it’s evil or that I have a problem with any one of my friends or family that use it, I want that to be clear. I deleted Facebook because I was using it as my kingdom to judge and I, not God was sitting on the throne. I deleted it because other people were influencing my views of the Bible, I have people close to me that I trust that can influence that but Joe Schmo on Facebook whom I’ve never met shouldn’t have that privilege.

I deleted Facebook because I don’t want to be the one on the throne anymore, that’s God’s job. I don’t want anyone to read this as me saying social media is a bad thing, it’s not. It is however what we make of it – I made my Facebook page a bad thing by how I was using it. The same goes for Christian movies, either they’re just entertainment or they’re teaching tools and I believe that that’s up to its creator. If a movie claims to be a tool we can use for evangelism, than we hold it up to scripture and see if that’s true. If a movie claims to be entertainment than holding it up to the Bible would be unfair in the same way it’d be unfair to hold SpiderMan up to the Bible – it never claimed to be Biblical.

Before I deleted Facebook I read a lot about The Shack, I already told you that, what I didn’t say was how much those things I’d read influenced me to form an opinion on The Shack before I ever even saw it. If someone else’s opinion can influence my opinion long before I should have one about a movie, how are they also influencing my opinions on other things? And how are my Facebook opinions influencing others’ opinions before they should have one. I think we should all make our own decisions and form our own opinions. When it comes to the Truth of Jesus Christ however, everyone needs to know Him. So my aim from this point forward is to spread less opinion and more Jesus, less interpretation and more Jesus, less head thumping and more Jesus… And no more Facebook, at least from me. For you? Feel free to share, or not share. Like, or not.

How Have We Gone From “It Takes a Village” to Mommy Wars? 

I love when friends share Bible verses on social media! It always makes me smile knowing that others take the time to read it and are encouraged by the word. It also makes me feel like I’m not alone on this journey and it’s encouraging to know that others struggle with the same thing I struggle with. 

This morning it was 1 Thessalonians 3 that was shared. It’s just one of the examples of Paul encouraging other believers, and encouraging them to be encouraging. 

We all love encouragement, receiving it that is. Giving it is another story. Did you know that as a culture we are so bad at encouraging one another that we’ve come with the term mommy wars? What that means is that mommies everywhere judge other mommies everywhere for everything they do from the moment they announce their pregnancy to the moment their child eventually marries and moves out. 

I read a story recently where a 30 year friendship ended after the two friends became mommies. They were so critical of each other’s parenting techniques that the friendship ended in a spat about breastfeeding vs formula feeding. “She had an opinion on everything I did, and I was always wrong. At first I distanced myself but then the passive aggressive comments came via Facebook posts that she knew I’d see. Eventually I had to end it, I mean why did she care so much about how much screen time my kids had, or how often I bathed my son, or the fact that I fed him store bought food?” Said one of the moms in an interview with a parenting magazine. 

As a foster parent I’ve had more than my fair share of unsolicited advice. Everyone knows what’s best for the kids, and I apparently know nothing. Since I knew that I would be under the critical eye of a government agency I’m somewhat okay with their criticisms, these aren’t my kids after all. It’s the scrutiny I felt from the day…. no, long before the day my first son was born from everyone under the sun that gets under my skin. They all want to tell you what’s best, even people who have yet to have their own kids! “You should go with a midwife” “no, you should use a doctor” “have your baby at the hospital” “do a home birth” “refuse pain meds” ask for pain meds” “don’t have any ultrasounds” “get as many ultrasounds as possible” “find out the sex” “don’t find out” and that’s just some of what I can remember hearing before my son was born. 

Afterwards it got even worse, from whether or not to vaccinate, to the oh so controversial topic of breastfeeding vs formula, then to what baby foods we should buy or better yet…make! I remember hearing criticisms about how we rocked him to sleep and that he slept in our bed and that we are spoiling him and ruining him and on to how much screen time he got on the tablet and so on. It became so hard to navigate through all the opinions of other people to actually determine what is truly the right thing for my son and my family, that I began to tune out all of the voices and that’s when I found some clarity. Nobody knew my little guy better than his parents, and his Creator, between God, my wife, my son and I we would figure out what he needed, and when. 

Tuning out those voices is an ongoing battle, which I’m sure it is for you too. You’ve probably been at the playground and saw the judgemental glances from other parents, or heard the whispers when your kids falls and scrape a knee. You’ve probably been at the grocery store trying to reason with an irate toddler demanding a bag of Oreos and seen the ‘mom of the year’ walk by with her perfectly dressed kids, walking hand in hand asking their mother politely if they might please have a bowl of broccoli for a snack whence they return home. I’m a dad, and therefore don’t hear quite so much of the cattyness but I’m not oblivious to it either, I can read between the lines when I see one mom ask another if she’s sure if she wants to put that in her kids’ mouths. 

The approaching school years get even worse, you’ll hear from people you didn’t even ask which school you should send your kids to, and they are all very passionately convinced that they are right. Private vs catholic vs homeschool and obviously public is only for the heathens. Then come the birthday parties and one parent out bashing the other when it comes to how elaborate they should be. Bouncy castles are a must now and any kid who doesn’t get one is obviously living below the poverty line. 

Okay, I’m done ranting, I just can’t figure out why so many people preach diversity in parenting and then demand that everyone parents the same way. Why does the homeschool mom and the public school mom have to be at odds with each other? Why can’t they each arrive at their own decision and be happy for each other? These pics say what I’m trying to say best. 

Putting aside all sarcastic ranting and the fact that I’m a dad and not a mom, wouldn’t harmonious parenting be better than competitive parenting? In my experience dad’s don’t do this, at least not to the level I’ve seen moms do it. If you don’t believe me just read the comments section of any topic related to parenting. Mommy shaming is a term someone came up with in an effort to describe what it’s like to be the subject of all that unwanted criticism, and I think it hits the nail on the head. 

Remember the old adage ‘it takes a village’? Well now it takes a mom and the village just scorns from the outside looking in. 

Look, I’m not saying I’m innocent in all of this, like I said I’m a foster parent. That means I take in kids coming from bad situations and I’ve done my fair share of judging those parents. I’m just asking that we put aside our opinions and what worked for us and we think they should do, and support each other and encourage each other in all the different ways we parent. Like the Apostle Paul when he wrote to his fellow believers, be an encouragement. Lift each other up and for goodness sake, lighten up! Life’s hard enough raising kids in this crazy world, why do we want to raise other people’s kids anyways? At the end of the day if that kid is a brat, it isn’t your problem. 

Challenge of the day: Speak Life (With Grace and Mercy) in the Face of Certain Death.


I wish I could say that not tithing the rightful tithe is no big deal. I wish I could say that God doesn’t take it that seriously and that we don’t need to repent of our sin of omission. 

I wish I could say that crude jokes and locker room talk about what men would do to certain women is harmless. I’d like to brush it off as just boys being boys and no one is hurt by it. 

I wish I could say that Monday through Saturday idolatry is no big deal, that the way we worship our jobs and our money is just what we do six days out of the week.

I wish that I could tell the lustful desires in the hearts of men that looking is fine, that their thoughts are okay, and that it’s just a natural desire that God gave you and therefore it’s nothing you need to repent of. 

I wish I could say to all those living in sexual immorality that you were born this way, God made you this way and that the Bible does not call it a sin. 

I wish I could say to the drunkards, the idolaters, the adulterers, the thieves, the greedy, and the con artists that what they’re doing and how they’re leading their lives is just what they have to do to get by. 

The truth is: I can’t say any of those things and still call myself a follower of Jesus. 

The truth is: I can’t say any of those things and still be considered as following the teachings of the Bible.

The truth is: I could say those things and the world would accept me with open arms and embrace my acceptance and tolerance and my willingness to coexist. 

The truth is: I could say those things and never call sin for what it is, but I would be living a life of heresy. 

There’s a growing church in the western world and in this church there are no sermons on sexual purity, no teachings about repenting of sin, no pastors who will lovingly call out the sins of the people, no need to confess and be accountable, no words spoken that might offend the diverse congregation.

This church is called “The Emergent Church” and it’s growing because millenials who grew up in church want to worship God but they want to do it in a place that doesn’t use the word sin unless it’s used to say that their parents and grandparents were the sinners. That it was generations past who practiced bigotry, intolerance and hatred. It was the years and years of past Republican presidents who marginalized everyone who wasn’t white. It’s the fault of baby boomers and generation X’ers who messed up the world and that the new crop of uber tolerant millenial christians are the ones fixing it. 

For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear. They will reject the truth and chase after myths.


2 Timothy 4:3‭-‬4

The emergent church teaches from the Bible, but also uses ‘holy’ books from other religions. They also use Oprah, Hillary Clinton and the Dalai Lama. The emergent church does not like the parts of the Bible that talk about sin, so they don’t teach those parts. They like the parts where Jesus heals, raises from the dead and protects would be victims of stonings. 

As a more conservative Christian who rejects tradition for the sake of tradition but also embraces the fundamental teachings of Jesus, I have a hard time with the Christian climate of today. It seems that another great divide is coming and maybe it’s already happened, and like the split that happened in Martin Luther’s day this one will be about how the Bible is taught. Unlike Luther’s reformation however, this one will hinge on the level of authority we ascribe to the Bible. 

What I’m saying is this, the Bible is either God’s Word or it isn’t. You see some of the new age teachers and pastors do not give the Bible the authority that God did. 


“Therefore, we never stop thanking God that when you received his message from us, you didn’t think of our words as mere human ideas. You accepted what we said as the very word of God—which, of course, it is. And this word continues to work in you who believe.”

1 Thessalonians 2:13 NLT

As the very Word of God we need to take it very seriously. When it calls certain things out as sin, those things are sin…no matter what and no matter if we don’t like it. 

Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God. Some of you were once like that. But you were cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

1 Corinthians 6:9‭-‬11

Acknowledging sin is only the first step, we need to know if what we’re doing is wrong according to God. The Bible does this for those that see it as God’s Word, for others, they have to have someone fill them in. In other words someone has to tell them the good news about what Jesus did to save us from those sins. 

People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy.

Proverbs 28:13 NLT

Emergent teaching focuses on the mercy mentioned in Proverbs or the grace that the New Testament talks about. And that’s not a bad thing, the grace and mercy we receive are amazing, way more than we deserve and we should be shouting for joy that we’ve got it. In order to know how awesome that grace is, we need to know how serious our sin is, when we down play our sin we also down play grace. 

Well then, should we keep on sinning so that God can show us more and more of his wonderful grace? Of course not! Since we have died to sin, how can we continue to live in it? Or have you forgotten that when we were joined with Christ Jesus in baptism, we joined him in his death? For we died and were buried with Christ by baptism. And just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glorious power of the Father, now we also may live new lives. Since we have been united with him in his death, we will also be raised to life as he was. We know that our old sinful selves were crucified with Christ so that sin might lose its power in our lives. We are no longer slaves to sin. For when we died with Christ we were set free from the power of sin.


Romans 6:1‭-‬7 NLT

This is where the balance of truth and grace comes in. We have been commissioned by God to tell the world about Jesus. The world on the other hand doesn’t want to hear it, they tell us to keep it to ourself and that faith is personal. The emergent church doesn’t recognize sin or the authority of Scripture so they aren’t going to be the ones who teach the hard truths of the Bible. On the flip side people like me can sometimes focus too much on the hard truth and not enough on the grace. 

Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

Ephesians 4:29 

So here’s the point; Christians need to know the Bible and what it says, even when they don’t like it. Like I said, I wish I could tell the people I know who continue to indulge in sin that it’s okay, God loves you and there’s no need to repent. But I can’t. God does love them, but He hates the things that come between them and Him. Sin is serious, it must be recognized as such and then be repented of, if we leave out that very important step we run the risk of paving that road of good intentions straight to you know where. 

Like Paul told the Ephesians, none of this truth telling needs to be done with harsh or foul language. It should be done in a good and helpful way that encourages the listener but not saying what is true is just as good as lying.