Because of the privilege and authority God has given me, I give each of you this warning: Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us.
Romans 12:3 NLT
Nothing delivers a blow to your ego like admitting you’re wrong. Apologizing is hard, apologizing and correcting the behavior that caused the need for an apology is even harder.
But why? Why is saying you’re sorry so hard, and why is changing the behavior even harder? Pride. Pride says you are right, pride says you did nothing wrong, pride says that it is the other person who should admit wrongdoing and change. In fact pride will fill your head with so much self centered thoughts that you will actually believe you aren’t wrong.
Pride is about self control, pride drives the desire to be right about everything, all of the time. Pride makes you believe that admitting fault makes you less of a person, when in actuality admitting sin is the one thing that can clear your mind of sin.
It’s easy to look at others and see their faults, it’s easy to see yourself and explain away why you did certain things and justify why you said what you said.
It’s easy to think that the world is crazy and you’re the only sane one.
Listen up brothers and sisters in Christ, pride is a liar! Pride will make you point your finger at everyone else when it should be pointing at you. I know because I’m guilty of it. I’ve been in many arguments where I should simply have said sorry, but like you, my ego driven, pride filled heart told me that I need to fight for myself and never ever admit I was wrong… just ask my wife.
Pride will tell you that that verse is not meant for you, it’s meant for everyone else, because they are obviously the ones who are wrong. Looking at the Bible like it was written so that you could thump others on the head with it is exactly what pride wants to make you think.
Humility and faith on the other hand say that admitting sin is the first step to forgiveness for everyone involved. Admitting sin leads to healing and transformation, admitting you were wrong can stop an argument in its tracks but embracing your pride will lead to the other person embracing their pride and all you’ll get is a pride fueled argument where no one is wrong and everyone loses.
I’ve often thought that humility is Jesus’ favorite virtue, because a humble person admits they were wrong, a humble person asks for forgiveness and a humble person also forgives. I’ve learned that I am in most cases none of those things. I don’t admit I’m wrong, I don’t ask for forgiveness and I don’t forgive and thereby completely ignoring the verse that I started with.
My evaluation of myself isn’t honest, I do think I am better than I actually am and I don’t measure myself based on the faith God has given me.
Having said all of that, I resolve to read the Bible from Jesus’ perspective, to read it for what it is, God’s word. I resolve to see the Bible as a promise for us, but not about us. The Bible tells us how to live and follow Jesus, not how to tell others how to live and follow Jesus.
My resolution is this, I am wrong, I need Jesus and Jesus saved me in spite of myself and that’s why I will rely on Him alone, not pride but Him! He will lead me to where He wants me and that’s where He will use me, I hope that if you’re reading this you will be there as well.
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